Art of rationality & Findom (more lost content-w/ footnotes)

Another blog dusted off and revamped from the past. See the evolution first hand. Many Dommes may recall this blog from some time ago. My footnotes will be in another color.

The art of rationality is rather simple for those who think rather than dream; although the two correlate often. I do think it is one of the best approaches of analytical mind in findom. W/we all have desires, yet those sometimes will not align the way W/we want them to.

I still believe that being rational is at least in some sense important. I do not do fantasy although I do realize many people in general are obcessed with role-play and creating a scene. That just has never been Me personally.

A wonderful example of this is when the dream is bigger than the budget, which more often than not it is. Wanting to be controlled in a TPE type of relationship with constant micromanagement or other time consuming aspects for the Female in an F/m relationship, which some Dommes like Myself and others enjoy, is a rather heavy obligation. This is only pleasing if the budget is satisfying and ultimately exceeds expectations for the obligations, effort, and time spent with the submissive on B/both sides.

Admittedly, this does sound much like a service but step back a moment and assess it. This is Findom not Freedom, but on the other hand with My owned boys the budget aspect is an amazing activity to explore together and set into action. I do not care if I am getting $200-$2,000 from a boy a month at all. What comes first and formost is My health, My mind, My desires, and there is nothing that changes this. I am not a slave sitter-let me rephrase that as that is not entirely true- I am not looking to adopt anyone of a much lesser mentality to micro-manage especially if it is NOT what I WANT!

How on Earth can a Domme put in so much to receive so little? I will never know the answer to this, but rather I look at three main things when talking to a new submissive:

1.       What is it that the submissive thinks they need/want (is it what they really need)?

2.       Are they willing and able to meet the budget I would require?

3.       Is there any spark at all if it is to be long term servitude? (without a spark or chemistry it is not worth the excessive effort)

Keep in mind these questions cannot be answered in one sitting normally, so it takes effort on B/both parts to explore if the connection, effort, and expectations are solid and can be met.

I will fair warn about this though just because it takes time to explore these things does not mean I will proceed to give a fuck and pick any boys brain for free. As curious as I am the attention that is desired by the lesser being is never given freely. That is where I feel some go very wrong. If a boy is really interested in serving a superior he will research and connect with material and content, so anything other than vanilla chats is not needed. Plus, if they cannot imagine contributing to you for your time ladies even in the smallest why bother to bat an eye?

Admittedly, at times I am told things I think are said solely to draw Me in rather than out of ant sense of honesty. That is an automatic brick wall being placed because one lie leads to many more. So, do a favor for yourself and the Domme you are seeking and aim within the realm of reality in your budget. Granted W/we will all still dream, and often times reality and fantasy mingle within, but it is more rational to approach wanting daily communication via letters, tasks, and such without the depth or to even admit to the Domme that intentions are that of a shallow being whom is only seeking a short lived thrill.

I am naturally blunt, so I do not tend to last long upon this these days. Talk is cheap and so are the talkers; I prefer to see action from My boys and the boys I interact with and they know this all too well. If you fathom to ever please Me do not come knocking at My door with empty pockets or hands. Just be warned I am not one to invest in you prior to you investing in Me because I am really worth it and I know it!

It is all in all proper respect of E/everyone to keep in mind if your dreams don’t fit the budget, they will always just be dreams or rather disappointments. Budget conversations are a MUST unless it is a random tribute to a Domme not yet been served by the submissive and the submissive understanding that the Domme is not held to give anything in return for a tribute. This is why I often refer to them as offerings.

Tributes, offerings, gifts, spoils; these are meant to worship and appreciate the Domme I will never be bothered with a menu type structure the only time I ask indepth questions is when it comes to longer term servitude. Which I am not overly interested in these days unless you live near Dallas and/or W/we mesh intellectually as F/m to progress to any extent boys.

All too often things get mixed up in the sense of I feel like some are buying services rather than giving servitude; there is a big difference, although neither is wrong so long as the actions are true to the words. As much as I love to toy and play with the inferior mentality in various ways I only do so if it pleases Me; money is only a portion of what makes it so enjoyable.

Overall I have just become disinterested in many submissive beings because of their hypocritical actions. If you are really looking to be of use-to serve- then do so without the douchebaggary. It really is only a mental matter to set your real life "manly" conditioning to the side for a moment and think clearly instead of like a moron. Remember you can be strong within your vanilla life but it isn't called for to strut around thinking you run the show when obviously those of Us Dommes who know better just shine you on like a fly on the wall. Don't get cocky because your life span may cease sooner than later that be the case.