On Being a Sweet Findom

I have always been the girl that people went to with their broken hearts, their misery, their family drama, and I always made them feel better again. I've also always been the kind to be controlling. I want someone to be safe and happy so badly that I will micromanage them to make sure they're eating as they should, taking care of themselves, etc. I don't like to be mean. I don't like calling anyone a loser or anything like that. My method of control is just to care. And to care a lot. And I guess I have to hope that that's the right thing for someone. Because so far I have noticed that the trend is toward humiliation. It's a very popular thing on this site. But I can't make myself do it. I prefer polite conversation, micromanaging, total power exchange... I'm trying to find a way to incorporate that into my findomme but it is proving rather challenging. Does anyone have any advice for how I can further myself without having to compromise my morals?