Owned Subs: When To Cut the Leash

Yesterday, much to My annoyance, I was forced to remove a sub that I had owned for six long months. He was My first sub, the only sub that had worked hard enough to earn his collar, and for any Domme, especially in Her first year of professional Domination, that can be a pillar to how hard one has worked. 

However, we all know that to earn a collar, to earn the status of "owned," a pet must be willing to work at it. A pet must remember his place. A pet must continue to sacrifice. I consider this sub to be a testament of how I ruled too loosely, and a chapter that I can reflect on for My style of Domination nowadays and what not to do anymore. And he got away with far too much.

• He continued to earn a girthy salary, yet asked for patience for not paying tributes due to some genuine circumstances that kept him from it, even though I confirmed them to be completely true. I stupidly gave him too much rope and was hung with it.
• He spoke every day to Me, tribute or not, and was often clingy when I wouldn't respond.
• He often wrote of games he wanted to play, things he wanted to try, even without My permission to tell Me what he might want to look into. When I said I would look into them, he'd constantly poke and prod and ask if I had gotten to it.
• When I made mistakes, he was quick to tell Me about them. When he made mistakes, I gave him more rope.
• He refrained from paying for a retweet game and money that he owed Me already, wanting it to be incorporated into a session so it could make him cum harder.
• He often asked for high-stakes games, which would incur a large reward for him if he won. My mistake: giving him a reward if he won.
• He made it seem like he was on the same level as a best friend, a lover, a boyfriend, that was justified in having equal footing in a D/s relationship, and would top from the bottom (as you can obviously see now) to suit his own agenda, when he was lucky just to have a loosely-fitting "friendship" with Me that not all subs had earned.

I am not cruel 100% of the time. I am reasonable and fair when things come up. But being topped from the bottom, being prodded at in an attempt to force himself onto equal footing with Me, being guilted for mistakes I made when I was so lenient, I will never accept again. I ended things with him, though up until two months prior to this he had been fairly golden in My standing. I lost no sleep from purging My stable of dead weight.

So, this is My message to you subs out there. Remember the effort a Domme puts into training you. Remember the time and energy a Domme puts into interacting with you when she is being bombarded with attention and pleads from lesser men all the time. Remember what a huge deal it is to be considered owned. We never do it to add numbers. Quality is always better than quantity. I'd rather have one sub tribute a ton and dedicate his time to doing things My way, than ten that tributed barely anything and did things half-assed. If We have decided that you are worthy of a collar -- not being under consideration, not being owned, but a fucking collar -- it has been determined that you have worked hard, and you can only go up. You cannot slack. You cannot compromise. You work, you exist, to make your Goddess' life better, easier, more fun, richer, and more fulfilling. We take your limits, your budget, your feelings into consideration, but the second you make it about you, you are no longer worthy of our attention. We may attempt to compromise and work things out but it won't work out forever, and you are blind idiots if you believe that it will. We're smart. We catch onto your bullshit. We know when it becomes all about you and your cock and your wants. And you will be discarded promptly.

I have only ever given one collar in My time as a Domme for a reason. Men don't earn it. Men seek out submission as long as it suits their dick's agenda. The second the boner is gone, you try and establish control again. Under a Domme's rule, you have little to no control. You do as you're told. You stay in your lane. You keep your mouth shut until otherwise asked for an opinion or feedback. And you recognize that as a submissive being, it is about your Goddess. If you can't commit to that, you get out of the submissive lifestyle until you admit that you are nothing but a fetishist wanting to be in a temporary role. We'll possibly still session with you, but stop trying to edit the script and say one thing when you mean another. 

Get yourselves the fuck together.