Thoughts and observations

I suppose I could have just called it rambling as well and that would have perhaps fit since I am simply going to share some personal thoughts and observations of mine. I invite you to agree to disagree with me as always and this is not specific to any one person either. It's not just specific to this community, but it is simply things that stick out at large these days.

Who are you anyways?
Half of the time when I see, read, watch, witness etc. women or men interacting, showcasing themselves, conversing etc. it is these days almost impossible to figure out if that person is submissive or dominant. The only thing I have to go by is the title or label they threw on their names and that is where it ends. Very few (there are some)have any discerning energies coming of them that would give the onlooker a clue as to who they are supposed to be. Let me clarify this up a little because some of you will be confused here. You can call yourself Dom/me or sub/slave all day long, you can spout words that you think are one thing or the other all day long, but if there isn't a natural energy coming off you then those are just words. A look of disdain is just a look of disdain. A bowed head is just a bowed head. Those who truly are will give of the vibe of it without even trying. It's not something you learn, it's something you are or have. These days it's sorely missing in most, because they power that comes from within is often mistaken for aggression from the dominant side. Which brings me to...

Being aggressive is not the same as dominant!
OH how many mistake the two. There are millions upon millions of people of both genders that are aggressive but that doesn't make them dominant. A bully can be aggressive too and that doesn't make them dominant. I keep hearing and seeing women or men who claim dominance that they have been so since a very very young age and they cite aggressive or bully behavior as that sign of dominance. I shudder each time I see or hear that, because it makes me wonder if you even know the difference. Do you have any idea how many so called "cash slaves" and I have put that in quotations on purpose, have cited their start in financial submission as having had their "lunch money" taken by some bully girl or boy in School? It's the ultimate fantasy reason of why some wimpy ass guy went into loser status and now can't help himself but to give money to the mean girls who still bully him. It's a style, a fantasy, a turn on trigger phrase, but is this really dominance and submission? I let you be the judge on that for yourself.

Cats, Dogs, Surgeries, the bunions on your feet etc. and not one fetish in sight!
Those are the conversation topics of most chats in the chatroom and as fun as it can be, it is about as much of a turn off as watching another rerun of 1000's ways to die. WE are in a Fetish Community and each time a chat that is fetish oriented begins it gets shut down quickly by others or totally ignored. I know you probably think that you shouldn't give those guys anything for free and that goodness forbid they may get hard if you actually talk about different fetishes and kinks, but newsflash that is what might get them going and it may just give you a chance to show that you actually know a bit more than just how to sit around looking bored. I get it, it's no fun for you if you aren't getting cash for it, but if you are actually really into a fetish then once in a while you would like to talk about it with other people who share that interest. If not you can just go out to a bar and get drunk or volunteer at an animal shelter. We talk about what interests us, the I had x amount of surgeries I am worse off then you upmanship, and all that other BS that people in general fall for is not only annoying, but it is about as anti-adult as it comes. You want guys to maybe get involved and just perhaps feel led to opening their wallets a little, try actually talking about something that is a turn on once in a while. If nothing else you can learn from one another and increase your knowledge base.

Bowing out of a conversation!
You see me doing that in chat once in a while and I know some wonder why I do that. Sometimes an actual fetish conversation takes place and I begin to converse with a boy about it. I am feeling him out, then another female jumps in and it gets pulled off into a different direction. Now it becomes about her cuteness suddenly and the fetish topic is shut down. The boy still expects to have the fetish conversation I had with him to continue so he can have his turn on, while he gets off on the "cuteness" of another. Not going to happen. I will bow out of the conversation and let her work her thing on him. It was important to her, so she can have it. Irony is that once I make it clear I bow out, the conversation completely stops, because cuteness alone cannot sustain interest. There has to be substance with it. If I enter a room and start talking to a boy, and this boy had been talking to another Lady without Me knowing and she indicates that she was in the middle of a possible open to watch session, I apologize and immediately bow out. Why? Because it's manners and common courtesy.

Stepping on toes of the feminine kind
READ the profiles of the boys before engaging with them with the intend of making them yours or getting tributes. Some of you are new and so let's put it in easy to understand language. If a profile says - owned or under consideration or being considered by or anything of that sort, it means hands off. He belongs to another or they are in the process of finding out if they are a good match and are building a D/s relationship. Please have some self-respect and don't go after a person that is the boy or sissy of another Lady. Some will share, others don't, but the common courtesy and unwritten rule of the Femdom Sisterhood states that you do not put your paws on what belongs to another unless expressively invited to do so. Oh and you boys, if you belong to someone, be loyal for pete's sake. Stop being sluts and trying to get the women on each others throat. Believe me if you come on a Lady like Me and several others you will find you run into a Wall and if you belong to Me and you are not given slutting rights you will be dismissed by me for something like that. I do not suffer trouble makers.

Mention tributes and they run or ignore you
Oh how fun it is to watch each and every single times. Now I am not saying it's ok to pressure boys into tributing or to label them as timewasters if they don't, but let's be honest. This is a financial domination community and tributing is part of the whole. If the mere mention of tributing or throwing out a tribute opportunity makes boys run away, then they are in the wrong place. It gets really old, really fast when you need to keep the dirty words of tribute, appreciation or serving out of your mouth, because in the end that is what we are here for... or supposed to be, because those things are part of financial domination or financial fetish. Oh and know the difference between fetish and domination please, because there is one. Look it up.

Not everyone that smiles is your friend!
This is one of the lessons you should have already learned from real life, but it bares reminding. Not everyone that smiles at you is your friend. I'll leave it at that.

Now that I got that off my chest I for once actually will put out a notification to the boys and sissies, which may or may not be read.

I have an open spot in My virtual Hisem for a loyal and generous cuckold. I enjoy keeping at least 2 cuckolds at a time and I already have one who does reasonably well, but it takes more than one boy to keep Me happy. If you enjoy a more mature Lady and don't have an issue with serving a BBW, are interested in being a cuckold for Me, you may approach Me. I will discuss the details of what I desire with you in person instead of putting it out here for the public eye. You will be naturally financially used along with being trained and conditioned to be the cuckold bitch I desire. So show your sincerity when approaching and if you don't know what that means --- again wrong community.

Goddess Bella Donna