What Being a Domme Means To Me

I am to take what I do seriously. I hold in My hands the sub's mind,body and power. I must respect hard limits and safety. A sub always has the right to a safe word. I prefer the red,yellow,green system or three head shakes if they are in bondage/gagged. I must never dominate out of anger, this is not a healthy head space and I must control Myself and cool down.
Speaking of self control, I must work to be disciplined too. Dominants have flaws just like subs. The expectation to Me, is that I'm working on improving Myself as much as possible. Whether it be personal things like fitness or eating habits; to researching and refining one's fetishes,kinks and the activities that go along with them.
I must never engage in activities where I don't feel I have the right knowledge to adhere to safety for the sub or both of us. Saying you can do something and actually doing it are very different.
It is My responsibility to care for the emotions of the sub or slave I have just played with. Some may not need emotional aftercare, but it is My responsibility to provide it when needed. The afterglow is just as fun as the scene.
Then after all that is seen to, you got to have fun! Find your own style, be yourself and make who you are interesting. Get to know the little things that push a sub's buttons. They may mention something in passing and you can surprise them with it later. Don't do something you know you will not like then leave the sub feeling hurt because you didn't enjoy yourself. A submissive wants to know they have pleased you. It can be a very important point that gets overlooked.
Lastly, do not set rules if you don't follow through with consequences and don't feel pressured to perform if you aren't in the right mood. A well behaved submissive will understand and be happy to wait.

Keep it safe,sane, and consensual
And remember R.A.C.K.- Risk aware consensual kink

Keep it classy San Diego,
I'm Ron Burgundy