My return & Reading cues (subspace)

I have been MIA for a while but, yes, I am back. Not quite in full swing online though. In due time that may come to change. I have been indulging in my life and taking much more personal time and being selfish (get over it) in where I choose to spend my time and energy. Nothing gets my blood pumping more than real-time interactions anyhow. If you are in the Dallas area and you dare to dazzle darlings send me an inbox message. Other than that onto more pressing matter. The matters of my mind; if anyone knows me they know I like to share information, but retain what you wish selectively because of we all have our own perceptions and opinions.

Mostly what had me frazzled was that some new Dommes might not take enough time to explore themselves or ask important questions (even if they are just asking themselves and looking for logical and practical answers on the sly). Yes, actually I still am improving, retaining, and flourishing daily; after nearly nine years of real-time interactions. Honestly, for those who have been in any real-time contact with submissive persons would notably know that there are cues when a sub is in subspace. They can vary person to person, but even with a safe word sometimes they get set adrift on a course of desire that is so selfless that they'd just take whatever the Domme dishes out. At times this can be fun of course, but as for being safe, sane, and consensual there is a line for most all of us.

What I really mean is, when do you blow your own whistle? What is it that makes you decide to tone it down or cease the interaction? Why didn't the submissive use the safe word? These are all wonderful questions. In fact, I am sure that this isn't the first time someone has thought about this, nor will it be the last.

I couldn't fathom how it feels to be in subspace at all, but from what I am told it is quite euphoric or at least the point of them obtaining the whole sensation of being use just purely for my pleasure, be it discipline, rewards, training, or just pure sensation of being submerged in the moment. Helpless and weak as they are at the depths we as Dommes should still manage to be sane in our decisions and play safely. For example, there is only one submissive I have that I would be comfortable and confident could take my wrath at its worst, but would ideally love the marks for days after. I am not talking just a red ass. More so, a cane to the ass and legs to get my juices pumping and the sadist in me loves it. I know not everyone is comfortable with leaving marks/scars on a submissive at all. Not many Dommes can trust just anyone anyhow. Back to the reason this strikes me, the cues their subtle signals. I normally look before I proceed sometimes brief and sometimes extensively.

The intensity of being in a real-time caning session can be one that would excite a masochist to the point once they hit subspace they think they can take anything and everything I could dish out at that moment. So, I will swat a bare ass a few times with my hand and laugh saying various things. This just torments them into not knowing when or where the initial strike will be laid into their soft vulnerable flesh. Once I lay in that initial blow I circle around smiling just to note the posture and presentation of my sub. Is he already fidgeting? How is he holding his hands? Is he sweating at all or does he look flushed? This all does matter as well as much more. I am sure every Domme has things they look at specifically, at least any seasoned Domme would.

After that initial swat there are a series of more intense and more powerful ones to follow. The fact of the matter is once the submissive has reached subspace everything is much like a blur not so much that their flesh, blood, and bones won't feel it. Mentally though they are adrift in a world that makes them feel like they are serving a purpose, and some will not mutter a safe word just because they do not feel as if their bodies are hurt in their minds. They can't see or feel the sweat dripping from their pores, their legs shaking uncontrollably when given a short break, their hands falling freely but pale and clammy. These are just a few of the things that I am watching for, but it is up to the Domme to decide when to tone it down or call it off. No one knows your sub like you do, nor will they, but do you know how to tell when they have reached the fog beyond the safe word?

I hope you all enjoy this and take a moment to think about some of it. I would like to hear of situations this type of discipline has helped for some other Dommes. Even if you just want to chime in feel free to. Knowledge is power, retain selectively though for not everything pertains to everyone.

I am happy to be back online, slowly but surely I will be on much more in time. As for now I am probably on three to four times a week; sometimes in chat and sometimes not. So, if you ladies or lessers feel the urge to talk then speak up, but boys you better use your manners!