On Knowing What You Want...

I get a lot of messages from Subs/Slaves on here as well as Niteflirt and Twitter that are often vague and sometimes unhelpful in regards to what is sought in a D/s relationship that they are comfortable with and decided to make some general comments/ offer advice on how everyone can have a better experience.

1) Don't say that you want "humiliation", "Psychological stuff", etc. Be specific

What does that mean? What kind of humiliation? There are several types and a particular Domme may do some but not others. You need to be as specific as possible during the early stages of your relationship with your Mistress to determine if both of you will be a good fit for each other.

2) Don't tell us that you have no limits/ Don't omit anything asked of you on an application

Let's be clear, I have a twisted imagination as I'm sure most of the other lovely ladies on here do. Telling us you have no limits is like leaving a fridge of food open for your dog. If you want us to push your limits, that's fine and awesome, but to not be specific is again a fail... If you don't know what limits are, I highly suggest you look them up or think about what you don't like in terms of sensations,etc. Omitting anything on your application is like saying that you don't care about the process or the time the Domme took to write it. It doesn't make you look very desirable if you don't accompany the missing sections with an explanation besides " I don't know"

The best Dommes also make the best teachers in my book, so don't be shy and omit things because you're afraid. We love teaching subs/slaves the lay of the land, nuances of the D/s lifestyle and much, much more.

Remember that as a Sub/Slave, your D/s relationship- at least initially!- is entirely in your control. Don't fail in the preliminary contact if you have an end game in mind.

Overall, be open, honest, and explicit because that's the only way everyone can be happy and healthy :)

Alright, weigh in, opinions? Thoughts?