Findom Headspace

Back when I first discovered this community (12-12-12) and I was still learning how to manipulate my Real Time Lifestyle Knowledge into the Online Realms, some of the things that people said too me went like this;

"There are too many Instas coming in and ruining Findom"

"No boys want to be subs anymore, they're all time wasters"

"Findom is dead, Ten years ago it was great, but now it's ruined"

As you can imagine, there was a LOT more of this rhetoric around, but those were the main ones.

The only real difference between the above broken record from 2012 and today is that today we have way better games on our phones (Though SNAKE IS STILL KING).

People will always look wistfully back at the "Good Old Days" and how boys were polite and obedient, new ladies were respectful of boundaries and nobody poached.

This is Bullshit.

It's legitimate Bullshit! Even back then there were asshole people who tried to shank you, or get things for free. There was Drama, there were fights and there were also factions that made seperate groups to bitch about each other in.

In fact, the only new idea I've seen in a long while was the idea of a "submissive union"* where subs could bitch about Dommes, and even THAT isn't a new idea because sub munches are a thing.

Instead of looking to the past, and analysing what other people are constantly doing that stops you from excelling, I suggest a serious look at your own Fetish Empire

Have you tended it recently?

What were the last photos that you uploaded?

when did you last change and update your profile and wish lists?

It's what I like to think of as the FinDom quiet season currently. The time between Valentines day and Easter where it seems like no one new is coming in, money isn't rolling and gifts aren't coming as often as you'd like. Many seem to think it's a good time to slow down, maybe even take a swipe at a reason beyond their control as to WHY they seem to be unsuccessful (even I've had my moments with this) But instead of griping, why not embrace the quiet and get yourself ahead of the curve?

Stand up and stand out! Make new content, research a new fetish! Read a few books on FLR or TPE! See what there is out there on Fetlife in your local area and meet people with exciting ideas and challenge yourself!

Because the only person who can possibly hold you back from being successful as a FinDom is you.



*For those of you playing along at home, That idea got shut down and kicked to the curb.