For me, D/s or F/m is a path for a type of closeness that I need and am unable to find in vanilla-la... View moreFor me, D/s or F/m is a path for a type of closeness that I need and am unable to find in vanilla-land. I believe it is a way for each to enhance the other.At one time I was particularly drawn to physical bondage but over the years that has changed to a fascination with emotional and psychological bondage. These can be expressed in a million different ways, overt and covert, subtle or extreme. All affect me (with the right person.)I am highly educated, verbal and have many vanilla interests: psychology, medicine, technology, societal trends, economics, (which I thought was boring until I realized it is all about fear and greed) and have a life-long passion for learning.